The Center of Gravity

You're exhausted in a way sleep can't fix.

You love someone who isn't cruel, isn't abusive, isn't doing anything you can point to and call wrong. And yet something is destroying you from the inside. You've become the ground they stand on, the steady one, the one who holds everything together, and you're slowly disappearing in the process.

This isn't a book about toxic relationships or narcissistic abuse. Those words exist for important reasons, but they don't describe what you're living. What you're living is quieter. More structural. Harder to name.
You're in a relationship where one person needs external ground to feel stable, and you've become that ground. And now you're erasing yourself to keep the system functioning.

This book will give you language for what's happening.

It will walk you through the experience of being the ground, how you got here, why talking doesn't fix it, why the guilt you feel about leaving is real but not a reason to stay. It will hold space for the grief that comes when you leave someone you still love, and the slow, difficult work of learning to stand on your own again.

And it will offer you something you may have forgotten: a vision of what love looks like when it doesn't require your disappearance.

You're allowed to leave a relationship that isn't cruel, isn't broken, isn't obviously wrong, and still be a good person.

You're allowed to choose yourself, even when it hurts someone you love.

You're allowed to stop being the ground.

Your existence matters. Your needs are real. And you deserve a love that lets you stay whole.

If you're ready, open this book. Your ground is waiting.