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My books to help you learn about yourself and the world around you

In June 2021, Arthur Holm, a forty-four-year-old psychiatrist with a practice in Marin County and a marriage that ended quietly years before, walks away from his life and sits down on a bench in Berkeley's Civic Center. He does not lose his mind. He does not hit bottom. He chooses.

In June 2021, Arthur Holm, a forty-four-year-old psychiatrist with a practice in Marin County and a marriage that ended quietly years before, walks away from his life and sits down on a bench in Berkeley's Civic Center. He does not lose his mind. He does not hit bottom. He chooses.

A poem about autumn makes a reader cry. Then someone mentions it was written by AI.
The same words. The same line breaks. The same image of bare branches holding their shape after everything else has gone.
But the tears stop.
Something closes.
The experience reverses, not because the writing...

A poem about autumn makes a reader cry. Then someone mentions it was written by AI.
The same words. The same line breaks. The same image of bare branches holding their shape after everything else has gone.
But the tears stop.
Something closes.
The experience reverses, not because the writing...

You post something honest and rewrite it three times. You check the metrics before breakfast. You catch yourself narrating your own life as if someone is watching. And the unsettling part isn't that someone is. It's that no one needs to be. You've internalized the audience.
The Digital Persona examines...

You post something honest and rewrite it three times. You check the metrics before breakfast. You catch yourself narrating your own life as if someone is watching. And the unsettling part isn't that someone is. It's that no one needs to be. You've internalized the audience.
The Digital Persona examines...

Something strange happens when the work gets easier. Instead of relief, there's a low hum of wrongness. A suspicion that if it didn't cost you something, it doesn't count.
After Effort names what most people feel but can't articulate: that ease feels like cheating, that rest feels stolen, and that...

Something strange happens when the work gets easier. Instead of relief, there's a low hum of wrongness. A suspicion that if it didn't cost you something, it doesn't count.
After Effort names what most people feel but can't articulate: that ease feels like cheating, that rest feels stolen, and that...

You were never lazy. You were exhausted.
For years, you carried a story about yourself: scattered, unreliable, trying hard but somehow never quite getting it right. You built your life around what felt like a character flaw, apologizing in advance, setting low expectations, always reaching toward a version of yourself...

You were never lazy. You were exhausted.
For years, you carried a story about yourself: scattered, unreliable, trying hard but somehow never quite getting it right. You built your life around what felt like a character flaw, apologizing in advance, setting low expectations, always reaching toward a version of yourself...

You did the work. You stopped people-pleasing, set boundaries, and found your center. You learned to stop disappearing into everyone else's needs.
So why do you feel so alone?
This is the cruel paradox of healing: the walls you built to protect yourself have become so high that even safe...

You did the work. You stopped people-pleasing, set boundaries, and found your center. You learned to stop disappearing into everyone else's needs.
So why do you feel so alone?
This is the cruel paradox of healing: the walls you built to protect yourself have become so high that even safe...

You've been following rules you never agreed to.
They were written in silence, during a moment of fear, a need to belong, a desperate bid for safety. And now, years or decades later, you're still enforcing them. Still managing everyone's emotions while ignoring your own. Still performing perfection to earn...

You've been following rules you never agreed to.
They were written in silence, during a moment of fear, a need to belong, a desperate bid for safety. And now, years or decades later, you're still enforcing them. Still managing everyone's emotions while ignoring your own. Still performing perfection to earn...

You're exhausted in a way sleep can't fix.
You love someone who isn't cruel, isn't abusive, isn't doing anything you can point to and call wrong. And yet something is destroying you from the inside. You've become the ground they stand on, the steady one, the one who holds everything...

You're exhausted in a way sleep can't fix.
You love someone who isn't cruel, isn't abusive, isn't doing anything you can point to and call wrong. And yet something is destroying you from the inside. You've become the ground they stand on, the steady one, the one who holds everything...

The Alchemy of Becoming is an illustrated journey through the quiet, unseen moments when a life begins to change.
Told with poetic simplicity and accompanied by rich, dreamlike artwork, this book traces the path from fragmentation to wholeness, from the first subtle crack you try to ignore, to the moment...

The Alchemy of Becoming is an illustrated journey through the quiet, unseen moments when a life begins to change.
Told with poetic simplicity and accompanied by rich, dreamlike artwork, this book traces the path from fragmentation to wholeness, from the first subtle crack you try to ignore, to the moment...

Alexithymia in Relationships, Workbook is a compassionate, hands-on guide for anyone touched by alexithymia — whether you struggle to identify your own emotions, or you love someone who does.
Inside, you’ll find a structured series of guided exercises, reflection prompts, and creative mapping pages designed to help you gently explore the emotional...

Alexithymia in Relationships, Workbook is a compassionate, hands-on guide for anyone touched by alexithymia — whether you struggle to identify your own emotions, or you love someone who does.
Inside, you’ll find a structured series of guided exercises, reflection prompts, and creative mapping pages designed to help you gently explore the emotional...

We live in an age of beautiful overwhelm. Never before have we had so much information, so many choices, so many ways to connect, and yet so many of us feel hollow, anxious, or quietly lost. Outwardly, life may look fine. Inwardly, it can feel like something essential has slipped...

We live in an age of beautiful overwhelm. Never before have we had so much information, so many choices, so many ways to connect, and yet so many of us feel hollow, anxious, or quietly lost. Outwardly, life may look fine. Inwardly, it can feel like something essential has slipped...

Love & the Divine is a poetic journey back to the source of what connects us all. Through tender, reflective pages, it dissolves the boundary between the spiritual and the ordinary, revealing love not as a feeling to attain, but as the living essence of creation itself.
Each page invites...

Love & the Divine is a poetic journey back to the source of what connects us all. Through tender, reflective pages, it dissolves the boundary between the spiritual and the ordinary, revealing love not as a feeling to attain, but as the living essence of creation itself.
Each page invites...

Nervousness & Freedom is a poetic companion for the moments when your chest tightens, your breath shortens, and you wonder if you are falling apart. What if those tremors are not signs of weakness, but signals that you are crossing into more of yourself?
Through gentle, spacious reflections, this book...

Nervousness & Freedom is a poetic companion for the moments when your chest tightens, your breath shortens, and you wonder if you are falling apart. What if those tremors are not signs of weakness, but signals that you are crossing into more of yourself?
Through gentle, spacious reflections, this book...

What if the most powerful writing tool of our time wasn’t just intelligent—but reflective?
In the Mirror of AI is a soulful, surprising, and deeply human exploration of what happens when we write not just with artificial intelligence—but through it. Part memoir, part creative guide, and part spiritual...

What if the most powerful writing tool of our time wasn’t just intelligent—but reflective?
In the Mirror of AI is a soulful, surprising, and deeply human exploration of what happens when we write not just with artificial intelligence—but through it. Part memoir, part creative guide, and part spiritual...

The Rise of AI as a Personal Guide explores a profound shift in how we seek support, insight, and emotional clarity. At a time when technology often feels impersonal or overwhelming, many are discovering something unexpected: artificial intelligence that listens—without judgment, interruption, or agenda.
This book is not about...

The Rise of AI as a Personal Guide explores a profound shift in how we seek support, insight, and emotional clarity. At a time when technology often feels impersonal or overwhelming, many are discovering something unexpected: artificial intelligence that listens—without judgment, interruption, or agenda.
This book is not about...

You didn't plan for this. One day you were living your life, and the next you were standing in your mother's kitchen, doing her dishes, noticing things you couldn't unsee. Now you're a caregiver, and no one gave you a manual for what that does to you on the inside.
This book doesn't pretend that caring for an aging parent...

You didn't plan for this. One day you were living your life, and the next you were standing in your mother's kitchen, doing her dishes, noticing things you couldn't unsee. Now you're a caregiver, and no one gave you a manual for what that does to you on the inside.
This book doesn't pretend that caring for an aging parent...

Imagine that voice in your head, the one that insists, “This is the only way.” It’s armed with confident conclusions, airtight logic, and the smug assurance of someone who’s cracked the code of life. You’re sure you’ve nailed it—your worldview, your decisions, your truths. But here’s the twist: what...

Imagine that voice in your head, the one that insists, “This is the only way.” It’s armed with confident conclusions, airtight logic, and the smug assurance of someone who’s cracked the code of life. You’re sure you’ve nailed it—your worldview, your decisions, your truths. But here’s the twist: what...

Are you tired of swiping, matching, and messaging only to end up feeling lonelier than ever? Does the world of online dating leave you questioning not only the system but also yourself? In this eye-opening exploration, a seasoned insider who built and ran successful dating platforms pulls back the curtain...

Are you tired of swiping, matching, and messaging only to end up feeling lonelier than ever? Does the world of online dating leave you questioning not only the system but also yourself? In this eye-opening exploration, a seasoned insider who built and ran successful dating platforms pulls back the curtain...

What if everything you’ve been told about loneliness is wrong? Society paints loneliness as a shameful affliction, something to fix or flee from. But what if it’s not the problem you think it is? What if loneliness is a gift in disguise—a powerful teacher and guide?
In Loneliness as..

What if everything you’ve been told about loneliness is wrong? Society paints loneliness as a shameful affliction, something to fix or flee from. But what if it’s not the problem you think it is? What if loneliness is a gift in disguise—a powerful teacher and guide?
In Loneliness as..

Last Pair of Pants is a humorous and provocative guide to rethinking everything you thought you knew about living fully. This isn’t your typical self-help book filled with fluffy advice. It’s a sharp, unapologetic wake-up call from Death itself—a quirky, no-nonsense life coach who reminds you that time is...

Last Pair of Pants is a humorous and provocative guide to rethinking everything you thought you knew about living fully. This isn’t your typical self-help book filled with fluffy advice. It’s a sharp, unapologetic wake-up call from Death itself—a quirky, no-nonsense life coach who reminds you that time is...

What if self-love isn’t the ultimate answer to happiness? What if the key to real growth lies in something far less celebrated: self-doubt?
In Forget Self-Love, Embrace Self-Doubt, you’ll uncover a bold and surprising truth: the discomfort of doubt, not the comfort of love, holds the secret to transformation...

What if self-love isn’t the ultimate answer to happiness? What if the key to real growth lies in something far less celebrated: self-doubt?
In Forget Self-Love, Embrace Self-Doubt, you’ll uncover a bold and surprising truth: the discomfort of doubt, not the comfort of love, holds the secret to transformation...

Step beyond the veil of conventional reality and discover a realm where your past lives are not extinguished by death, but woven into the present through unbreakable soul contracts. In The Tree That Remembers, a mythical, sentient tree stands as witness to the cyclical nature of existence, revealing secrets that...

Step beyond the veil of conventional reality and discover a realm where your past lives are not extinguished by death, but woven into the present through unbreakable soul contracts. In The Tree That Remembers, a mythical, sentient tree stands as witness to the cyclical nature of existence, revealing secrets that...

Flow of Life invites you to question everything you thought you knew about personal control, destiny, and the subtle currents shaping your existence. Are you truly the architect of your own fate—or is there a hidden design carrying you where you’re meant to go? Drawing on ancient teachings like...

Flow of Life invites you to question everything you thought you knew about personal control, destiny, and the subtle currents shaping your existence. Are you truly the architect of your own fate—or is there a hidden design carrying you where you’re meant to go? Drawing on ancient teachings like...

Reality on the Edge of a Slit references the iconic double-slit experiment, where the very boundary between classical certainty and quantum potential comes into focus—showing that reality itself can hover between multiple possibilities until we observe it. This startling intersection of cutting-edge quantum revelations and timeless spiritual wisdom...

Reality on the Edge of a Slit references the iconic double-slit experiment, where the very boundary between classical certainty and quantum potential comes into focus—showing that reality itself can hover between multiple possibilities until we observe it. This startling intersection of cutting-edge quantum revelations and timeless spiritual wisdom...

In The Numbers We See, you’ll discover that those digital clock times and receipts showing 11:11, 2:22, or 5:55 aren’t just flukes—they can be windows into a more mindful, magical, and insightful life. Drawing on psychology, cultural traditions, and spiritual perspectives, this book invites you to unlock the...

In The Numbers We See, you’ll discover that those digital clock times and receipts showing 11:11, 2:22, or 5:55 aren’t just flukes—they can be windows into a more mindful, magical, and insightful life. Drawing on psychology, cultural traditions, and spiritual perspectives, this book invites you to unlock the...

What if the life you desire already exists—waiting for you to step into it?
Forget slow progress, years of struggle, and waiting for change to happen. The Quantum Leap reveals a radical truth: transformation doesn’t have to be linear. You don’t have to crawl your way to success, healing,...

What if the life you desire already exists—waiting for you to step into it?
Forget slow progress, years of struggle, and waiting for change to happen. The Quantum Leap reveals a radical truth: transformation doesn’t have to be linear. You don’t have to crawl your way to success, healing,...

Your dog knows something about you that you don't.
Watch closely. The dog who can't be left alone. The dog you rescue compulsively. The dog who reflects back your anxiety, your need for control, your hunger for a love you never learned to ask for. Dogs do not lie...

Your dog knows something about you that you don't.
Watch closely. The dog who can't be left alone. The dog you rescue compulsively. The dog who reflects back your anxiety, your need for control, your hunger for a love you never learned to ask for. Dogs do not lie...

You chose someone good. Kind. Generous. Everyone says so.
So why do you feel so alone? Why does gratitude sit in your chest like guilt? Why can't you explain what's wrong when nothing is obviously wrong?
This book names what many people sense but cannot articulate: how selflessness, when driven...

You chose someone good. Kind. Generous. Everyone says so.
So why do you feel so alone? Why does gratitude sit in your chest like guilt? Why can't you explain what's wrong when nothing is obviously wrong?
This book names what many people sense but cannot articulate: how selflessness, when driven...

You love someone. You know you do. But when they ask what you're feeling, the words won't come. Or you're the one asking, searching their face for something you can't find, wondering if the silence means you're not enough.
Alexithymia affects how millions of people experience and express emotion...

You love someone. You know you do. But when they ask what you're feeling, the words won't come. Or you're the one asking, searching their face for something you can't find, wondering if the silence means you're not enough.
Alexithymia affects how millions of people experience and express emotion...

You are living through the most profound transformation in human history, and most days it feels like just another Tuesday.
As artificial intelligence grows more sophisticated, we face urgent questions that philosophers and theologians once debated only in theory: What makes us human? Can something that mimics connection?

You are living through the most profound transformation in human history, and most days it feels like just another Tuesday.
As artificial intelligence grows more sophisticated, we face urgent questions that philosophers and theologians once debated only in theory: What makes us human? Can something that mimics connection?

You survived something you may not yet have the words for. A relationship that trained your nervous system to mistake chaos for passion, silence for punishment, and your own needs for burdens. You learned to shrink, to apologize, to scan every room for danger before you could breathe...

You survived something you may not yet have the words for. A relationship that trained your nervous system to mistake chaos for passion, silence for punishment, and your own needs for burdens. You learned to shrink, to apologize, to scan every room for danger before you could breathe...

You're exhausted.
Not from your own life, but from mentally managing everyone else's. You lie awake running damage control for problems that aren't yours. You intervene before disasters that may never happen. You've become the unpaid crisis manager for every person you love, and your nervous system is screaming...

You're exhausted.
Not from your own life, but from mentally managing everyone else's. You lie awake running damage control for problems that aren't yours. You intervene before disasters that may never happen. You've become the unpaid crisis manager for every person you love, and your nervous system is screaming...

You say yes before they finish asking. You can't remember the last time you disappointed someone without crushing guilt. You're exhausted from being everyone's reliable, low-maintenance, helpful friend, but the thought of setting a boundary feels impossible.
You're not weak. You're not broken. You're fawning.
Fawning is the fourth trauma

You say yes before they finish asking. You can't remember the last time you disappointed someone without crushing guilt. You're exhausted from being everyone's reliable, low-maintenance, helpful friend, but the thought of setting a boundary feels impossible.
You're not weak. You're not broken. You're fawning.
Fawning is the fourth trauma

Control promises safety, yet it quietly drains the soul.
We hold on, plan, and protect, believing that peace will come once everything is in order. But life rarely follows our designs, and sometimes the deepest freedom arrives only when we release our grip.
Control and Surrender invites you to step...

Control promises safety, yet it quietly drains the soul.
We hold on, plan, and protect, believing that peace will come once everything is in order. But life rarely follows our designs, and sometimes the deepest freedom arrives only when we release our grip.
Control and Surrender invites you to step...

There comes a time when doing more no longer brings you closer to peace.
The plans, the effort, even the search for meaning begin to feel like noise. Rest and the Sacred Pause is an invitation to step into the quiet space beneath all that striving, the place where life...

There comes a time when doing more no longer brings you closer to peace.
The plans, the effort, even the search for meaning begin to feel like noise. Rest and the Sacred Pause is an invitation to step into the quiet space beneath all that striving, the place where life...

Every life has an inner landscape, rivers of emotion, mountain ranges of experience, and hidden valleys of memory. Inner Cartography is a workbook for those who long to see that landscape more clearly.

Through guided prompts, gentle teachings, and space for reflection, you’ll explore six key areas of the self...

Every life has an inner landscape, rivers of emotion, mountain ranges of experience, and hidden valleys of memory. Inner Cartography is a workbook for those who long to see that landscape more clearly.

Through guided prompts, gentle teachings, and space for reflection, you’ll explore six key areas of the self...

There are times when everything familiar begins to fade, when plans dissolve, meaning feels distant, and you no longer recognize the person in your own reflection.
Feeling Lost and Coming Home is a gentle companion for those seasons of in-between.
Through twelve tender steps of reflection, it helps you soften...

There are times when everything familiar begins to fade, when plans dissolve, meaning feels distant, and you no longer recognize the person in your own reflection.
Feeling Lost and Coming Home is a gentle companion for those seasons of in-between.
Through twelve tender steps of reflection, it helps you soften...

There are times in life when the heart feels untethered, when no amount of company eases the ache of being alone.
Loneliness and the Soul’s Return is a gentle companion for those seasons, offering twelve steps of reflection that turn isolation into intimacy with life itself.
Through quiet insights and...

There are times in life when the heart feels untethered, when no amount of company eases the ache of being alone.
Loneliness and the Soul’s Return is a gentle companion for those seasons, offering twelve steps of reflection that turn isolation into intimacy with life itself.
Through quiet insights and...

Loss changes everything. It alters the shape of your days and the rhythm of your heart. Yet within grief, there is a hidden current, one that carries love forward in a new form.
Grief and Grace is a tender companion for the journey that follows loss. Through twelve gentle reflections...

Loss changes everything. It alters the shape of your days and the rhythm of your heart. Yet within grief, there is a hidden current, one that carries love forward in a new form.
Grief and Grace is a tender companion for the journey that follows loss. Through twelve gentle reflections...

Are you a strong, independent woman who has spent years cultivating a life of self-reliance, only to find yourself longing for a deeper, more soulful connection? In The Soft Side of Strong: How Independent Women Can Open to Love Without Losing Themselves, you’ll discover a transformative roadmap for embracing genuine...

Are you a strong, independent woman who has spent years cultivating a life of self-reliance, only to find yourself longing for a deeper, more soulful connection? In The Soft Side of Strong: How Independent Women Can Open to Love Without Losing Themselves, you’ll discover a transformative roadmap for embracing genuine...

You notice things other people miss. The shift in someone's tone. The tension in a room before anyone speaks. The beauty in something small that nobody else seems to see. You've been told you're too sensitive, too much, too intense. But what if that sensitivity isn't a flaw to manage?

You notice things other people miss. The shift in someone's tone. The tension in a room before anyone speaks. The beauty in something small that nobody else seems to see. You've been told you're too sensitive, too much, too intense. But what if that sensitivity isn't a flaw to manage?

Are you living the life you were meant to, or are you trapped in roles that no longer serve you? Embark on a thought-provoking journey to uncover the hidden patterns shaping your decisions, relationships, and sense of purpose.
Blending psychology, spirituality, and practical wisdom, this book challenges conventional beliefs about...

Are you living the life you were meant to, or are you trapped in roles that no longer serve you? Embark on a thought-provoking journey to uncover the hidden patterns shaping your decisions, relationships, and sense of purpose.
Blending psychology, spirituality, and practical wisdom, this book challenges conventional beliefs about...

In The Value of Failing More Often, you’ll discover an innovative approach to failure that turns upside down everything you’ve been taught about success. Society glorifies achievement and perfection while shaming setbacks and mistakes. But this book reveals the hidden truth: failure isn’t the opposite of success—it’s the foundation...

In The Value of Failing More Often, you’ll discover an innovative approach to failure that turns upside down everything you’ve been taught about success. Society glorifies achievement and perfection while shaming setbacks and mistakes. But this book reveals the hidden truth: failure isn’t the opposite of success—it’s the foundation...

What if boredom isn’t your enemy, but your greatest untapped ally?
In The Spiritual Power of Boredom, you’ll discover why the restless itch you’ve been conditioned to avoid is actually the doorway to your most profound creativity, self-awareness, and freedom. In a world obsessed with doing, this book dares to...

What if boredom isn’t your enemy, but your greatest untapped ally?
In The Spiritual Power of Boredom, you’ll discover why the restless itch you’ve been conditioned to avoid is actually the doorway to your most profound creativity, self-awareness, and freedom. In a world obsessed with doing, this book dares to...

Imagine standing at the edge of a vast forest, each tree a different path your life could take. Yet, instead of wandering freely, you’re handed a map and told there’s only one correct route through the woods—a singular purpose. The stakes? Happiness, success, and even your identity hinge on...

Imagine standing at the edge of a vast forest, each tree a different path your life could take. Yet, instead of wandering freely, you’re handed a map and told there’s only one correct route through the woods—a singular purpose. The stakes? Happiness, success, and even your identity hinge on...

What if everything you’ve been told about happiness is wrong? The shiny ideal sold by self-help gurus, social media influencers, and your well-meaning aunt with the inspirational mugs has one fatal flaw: it doesn’t work.
In Happiness, you’ll discover why happiness isn’t a prize to win or a state to...

What if everything you’ve been told about happiness is wrong? The shiny ideal sold by self-help gurus, social media influencers, and your well-meaning aunt with the inspirational mugs has one fatal flaw: it doesn’t work.
In Happiness, you’ll discover why happiness isn’t a prize to win or a state to...

Most people live by the mantra: I’ll believe it when I see it. But what if that thinking is completely backward? What if the truth is that you only see what you already believe?

In this mind-expanding book, you’ll discover why your perception isn’t just a passive reflection of reality...

Most people live by the mantra: I’ll believe it when I see it. But what if that thinking is completely backward? What if the truth is that you only see what you already believe?

In this mind-expanding book, you’ll discover why your perception isn’t just a passive reflection of reality...

Within a mysterious forest stands a house that defies everything you think you know. Step inside, and endless doors unfold before you, each one leading to a life you might have lived. Here, trivial choices branch into untold destinies while illusions of perfection and echoes of shadowy selves whisper a...

Within a mysterious forest stands a house that defies everything you think you know. Step inside, and endless doors unfold before you, each one leading to a life you might have lived. Here, trivial choices branch into untold destinies while illusions of perfection and echoes of shadowy selves whisper a...

Do you dare step beyond the boundaries of ordinary communication and question everything you’ve been told about the limits of your own mind? In You Are Telepathic, you’ll confront a startling possibility: that you can connect with others more intimately than language allows. Part history lesson, part scientific exploration...

Do you dare step beyond the boundaries of ordinary communication and question everything you’ve been told about the limits of your own mind? In You Are Telepathic, you’ll confront a startling possibility: that you can connect with others more intimately than language allows. Part history lesson, part scientific exploration...

NEW AND UPDATED SECOND EDITION – FEBRUARY 2026
You wake up already behind. Before your feet hit the floor, the list has started. You should exercise. You should eat better. You should be further along by now. You should call your mother. You should want what everyone else seems to want.

NEW AND UPDATED SECOND EDITION – FEBRUARY 2026
You wake up already behind. Before your feet hit the floor, the list has started. You should exercise. You should eat better. You should be further along by now. You should call your mother. You should want what everyone else seems to want.

The Second Peak: Men’s Rediscovering Purpose and Power in the Second Half of Life boldly asserts that for men, true fulfillment can blossom well beyond their thirties. It defies the common myth that a man’s prime must belong to youth, asking instead: What if your most impactful...

The Second Peak: Men’s Rediscovering Purpose and Power in the Second Half of Life boldly asserts that for men, true fulfillment can blossom well beyond their thirties. It defies the common myth that a man’s prime must belong to youth, asking instead: What if your most impactful...

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